November 10, 2024: I heard from a student the other day that a friend went on a date. While the friend (female) was engaging in a kiss, the man started choking her.
End of date.
The same with voting for Trump: End of dates.
Results in more incels, I guess. But my dudes: You’ve brought this on yourselves.
I’ve read (in the Guardian, among other places) that young men voted for Trump because of his hyper-masculinity.
Seriously? So OK, several explanations for your having been so easily duped.
Like I say, good luck getting a date. I mean, for anyone who doesn’t look like one of the Republican bimbos yet thinks the same, maybe they’ll be impressed with—or think they can easily control (probably two sides of the same coin)—your macho, Creatined, butch-built body. Maybe.
More likely the women you are able to date will think like you, that relationships are all about power—who’s on top; who gets to show who is boss.
For about a hundred years or so now, psychologists have explained patiently to us that a Trumpian sort of strutting is a sure sign of insecurity. Male insecurity, the fragile male ego—these are just aspects of being male. It’s not a choice. The choice is what you do about it.
You can insist that you certainly don’t feel any insecurity! You can strut about and assume power. And get no dates. Or you can admit an insecurity, realize we all have it and that women actually like men who are vulnerable. Not weak but vulnerable. These are two different states.
Trump will never admit he’s wrong and will never apologize—sure signs of weakness to anyone with any insight (like, oh I don’t know, most women). Good luck aligning yourself with him. Just don’t hope to meet him in the gym with you, lifting weights. Trump lift weights—? Right.
I’m speaking as a man who is both an English professor and a licensed construction manager. And who loves women.
Think I’m kidding or overstating? Check out the 4B feminist movement for women who resolve to stop dating men: